Sunday, May 21, 2023

A hungry Celiac's Adventure in England and Scotland - Journal Day 1

Day 1 Heathrow Airport England to Inverness, Scotland.

How it was supposed to go:

6:35 land

Collect bags

8:35 catch train to terminal 5 and end up in Inverness at suppertime.

Hold my beer. How it went:

6:35 land – the only thing that matched

Waited for luggage for one hour then spoke to a nice gentleman about how I was going to get my luggage that was still in Toronto.

Left terminal 2 via train shuttle to catch train at terminal 5

Delay of train coming into terminal 5 – it was delayed at terminal 2. All around the circle.

Left terminal 5, stopped at terminal 2 and then at Paddington Station where I had to get off.

From Paddington Station I had to go to Kings Cross Station. Got directions for the train, went to the platform and got on. Unfortunately, it was going in the wrong direction, so I had to get off, cross over the top and wait on the other side. That was the train wasteland because I was the only one there. Went in the right direction and got off at Kings Cross. Found the Northern Line like my ticket said after going down three levels over one big old escalator, found out it wasn’t the right place and had to go up the other side on a big ole escalator.

By now I was wandering aimlessly in the bowels of London city streets where people were telling me go up them stairs, take three rights and you are there. I did that but wherever there was, I wasn’t in it. I just want to say that “them” stairs were not like your average 12 step stair program, nope. They were like Dalai Lama of steps with quotes on the right where you want to quit kind of step. Then I’d get to the top and somebody would send me back down again. As I approached the Dalai Lama steps for the third time, I had a sudden sense of defeat mixed with frustration and a dash of self-pity and I had the urge to shed a tear. But I said to myself, “that’s enough of that nonsense, look at where you are.” I sucked it up and went down the 200-foot escalator once more, sure that what I was looking for was down there.

I stopped this young girl who was looking at the train app. I asked her if I was in the right place to get the train to Inverness and this dude came to a halt and backed up. “Lady, the trains are not down here. You are looking for the ones on the ground.” What I didn’t know was put to me plainly and I followed his directions up and out past the Dali Lama to freedom and sunshine.

This is where this couple sent me up the side of a two-storey building (literally, the stone steps were on the side). Up there, the girl pointed to where I needed to be, and it wasn’t up them steps.

Finally, after almost two hours, I burst through the doors of the Kings Crossing Train Station and into chaos. I made my way to the information booth and the gentleman there told me to come back up in 15 minutes and he’d have news for me. It was madness there, trains cancelled, delay, and people gathered watching the schedule. I went back up when the time was up and he told me the train wasn’t posted yet but I could go to platform 2. I did. So did about five hundred others. I managed to get a seat by this time ahead of many of the people. The track was broke on the main line and everything had to be routed around it or through it using one line but taking turns. We were going toward it. Luggage was piled up all around, people were on the floor, standing by the walls, children, adults, seniors, just blocked. People were angry about not getting seats, not getting something to eat, etc. It was bad.

I think there must have been a Murphy fellow who designed that train because everything that could go wrong (except for a head on collision but I digress) did go wrong. We stopped on the track for about 90 minutes as one train went through the bad spot, another came toward us, through it and then we were able to go. When we finally got through, another slower train with more stops got ahead of us and we’d have to stop and wait to be able to pass the station. Finally, that one went in a different direction but the railway put on another one to alleviate the mess of people waiting on the lines. She, too, made more stops than ours did so the trip to Edinburg was delayed in the end by 2.5 hours. By this time, all the trains going to Inverness from Edinburg were cancelled. I was in another pickle. There was another train that would bring me to a station an hour away that still had a non-cancelled connection to Inverness. By 10 pm, I walked in through the doors of my hotel five hours later than planned.

I had planned to sit in first class with lots of room, keep to myself, do some writing, but what I had planned didn’t come to fulfillment.

What happened instead was me really looking at the countryside. The burst of yellow canola patches slivering and patching the land, the gorgeous green grass with that fresh look of spring, the darker corn rows popping through the soil, the cleanliness of everything, and the list goes on.

The man who helped me through the process of having my luggage sent to me thanked me for being nice. Imagine how easy it was to just be nice. I had a chat with two woman who were so positive about the trip even though they were delayed. They laughed and carried on and made everyone’s mood lighter. There was this lady in the wheelchair who shouted, I’ll see you all later and she meant it though mostly everyone never saw the sky over her before. The crowd of workers who kept coming out of the dining car handing out chips, Pepsi, water, beer, sandwiches, cookies, etc. and cleaning up afterwards. They kept apologizing and keeping everyone well informed of what was happening. The hum of chatter and peeks at conversations between strangers that was a pleasant accompaniment to alleviating the stress of the day and passing the time. The old man who got on at the wrong station and the tired travelers who volunteered to give up their seats. The lovely man and wife who chatted me through the last few hours on the way to Inverness and promised to do a drive by wave at Moniack Mhor sometime this week. And finally, when I got to the hotel, I had the most wonderful room. There’s even a mural of a Newfoundland beach (well it could be kind of thing, but may not be) on the shower wall to make me feel at home. And to top it off, I asked if the kitchen was still open and the chef spoke up behind me and asked me what I wanted. (PS I had no food on the train except for two small bags of chips and some candy tots a woman left me when she was getting off). I said a sandwich would be lovely if they had gluten free bread. When I got a chicken salad sandwich, salad, chips, dip and a ginger ale delivered to my room not fifteen minutes later. And there were many more positive things from the day. Instead of being sad, mad, and frustrated, I went with questions, opening my eyes, and that feeling I had when I was down for just that minute, I can recreate that for a character in a book to come.

I don’t want to plan a regret; that's no fun for anyone. I want to live an adventure. Day 1 in England/Scotland, you weren’t so bad. I had sense enough to bring a change of clothes in my carry on and I’ll be just fine until my bags catch up with me. I have all week to write. Lucky me. Hold my ginger ale. I'm allergic to beer.

 

Saturday, May 13, 2023

Happy Mothers Day

Mothers Day was the invention of a card company or a flower company or a telephone company to make money. A business decision and a good one. Now it’s even expanded beyond the 24-hour celebration to be a weekend thing that starts sometime on Friday really and expands to midnight on Sunday so that other companies can take advantage of the Mothers Day free for all spending spree. Even the weeks leading up to it are a frenzy of Mothers Day spending activities as we try to show our love for mothers with “things”.

However, to a large percentage of the world’s population, we know that Mothers Day is every single day from the time we set our heart upon that little human until our death. Even then I think we carry on in a different way.

Being a mother starts with loving too fiercely and too tightly but all with the best intentions of loving someone through life, and then slowly letting the other person become their own and then letting go. But never fully letting go with our heart or our love, no matter what. That’s motherhood. That can’t be just a one-day thing, or a one weekend thing. Mothers know this. But we’ll take a special day, make the companies rich, accept the gifts, just to ease the minds of our loved ones.

There’s a tiered system to motherhood, as well. I got to the grandmother level a few years ago and boy am I learning lots. Now I get to love somebody through loving somebody through life. Its like a favourite cake with icing all the time.

No matter what tier of motherhood I’m in, I’m still part of the village where one mother can rightly have the expectation for another mother or mother by proxy to help her love fiercely when she thinks she can’t love enough – to enfold her when she stumbles, to enfold her entire family, and to love them all through circling, and comforting, and guiding and again always with the best intentions.

Being human, sometimes mothers stray the course because it is long and hard and sometimes unforgiving. It’s a journey that she undertakes with fear but always with love to do the best she can. Sometimes that means letting go early and letting the village love.

A mother knows there is no right way to be a mother. There is only the right love.

For those who are just starting the journey, you have a village. Take advantage of the village, they’ll do right by you. You are not alone. You are not on a path that nobody has trod before. You are a mom! You have a village of moms to accompany you even when you might think its just you. Reach out early. Most importantly, trust yourself.

Not everyone chooses this path. Not everyone wants this path. Not everyone is up for the challenge of this motherhood path. Not everyone has the same opportunities or ways to get on this path or may have been on the traditional path for mere minutes. So, be kind with your words not only this weekend but every single day.

Motherhood is about doing the best you can even when love is all you have. Sometimes it is loving downward, upward, and sideways all the same time. Sometimes it’s through strands and tethers of hope and worry. That is what makes a mother a MOTHER.

I’m going to join the Mothers’ Day weekend bandwagon and say “Happy Mothers’ Day” especially to the ones I love the deepest and those who call me Mom, and my whole family of Moms who made me an Auntie and great-Auntie (or mothers by proxy).

This year, I’m going to try to be a better village as my own mother did before me.

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